Overcoming Self-Imposed Dating Anxieties
Description
A Few Thoughts on Conflict in Dating
Why Trying to "Be More Feminine or Masculine" is a Trap
"Not Good Enough"
Chasing After Instant Chemistry is Foolish
Does Longevity in the Past = Mature Dater Today?
Are You Really Prepared for a Relationship?
Guys Don’t Want to Date “One of The Guys”
Things I Have Learned About Dating
Fear in Dating and Relationships
Does the Person You're Dating Make You Smile
Marrige and Happiness
Is Your Resolution to Find Love in the New Year?
Disappearing Dates
Well that is very good to know and I will definitely remember that.
Usually when I read criticisms of stereotypes about bisexual people, I end up feeling a bit pressured to be a “respectable” bisexual, as if by being non-monogamous, having no-strings-attached sex, and not wanting to be in a relationship that requires me to have exclusively hetero or same-sex sex I’m “proving” the slutty bisexual stereotype. I don’t think that’s happening on this thread, but I’m curious if others ever feel the same way.
Yeah it’s a shame — I feel like I might be hurting other bisexual people by reinforcing the stereotypes, being nonmonogamous, “slutty” and bisexual. It’s a difficult thing to navigate. I’d be curious to hear what others think.
I’m sorry you both feel caught in the trap that the stereotype sets up, because yes, the pushback against it can often come off as shaming and slut-shaming. One thing that might help, I think, would be for anyone addressing the issue directly to be careful to push back against both the idea that all bisexuals fit the stereotype, AND against the notion that there’s anything wrong with being non-monogamous or ‘slutty’. Because both the stereotyping and the shaming implied in it are hurtful, and turning around to shame fellow bis another way in response isn’t something I’m a fan of. (I’m fairly monogamous myself and not terribly attached to sex of any kind, but that’s just me. Being bi brings enough challenges – I don’t want to add to them for others.)
But as you say, it’s difficult to navigate, and I don’t know of any comprehensive solution. Kyriarchy = you can never win, yeah?
I totally get that. We are in an open relationship. We are rarely with other people, it’s been ages for either of us, but a part of me is like “Great, I’m just reinforcing the idea that we’re ‘greedy’ or whatever”. Then I feel bad for feeling bad because we’re not doing anything wrong, and the behavior of two bisexual people should not be held up as anyone’s example of how we all act, and blah blah blah, vicious circle…
Ashurredly, I totally feel your pain. Well, Val does more than I do, being more evenly bi, but I feel her pain, sort of, so…
Why Trying to "Be More Feminine or Masculine" is a Trap
"Not Good Enough"
Chasing After Instant Chemistry is Foolish
Does Longevity in the Past = Mature Dater Today?
Are You Really Prepared for a Relationship?
Guys Don’t Want to Date “One of The Guys”
Things I Have Learned About Dating
Fear in Dating and Relationships
Does the Person You're Dating Make You Smile
Marrige and Happiness
Is Your Resolution to Find Love in the New Year?
Disappearing Dates
Well that is very good to know and I will definitely remember that.
Usually when I read criticisms of stereotypes about bisexual people, I end up feeling a bit pressured to be a “respectable” bisexual, as if by being non-monogamous, having no-strings-attached sex, and not wanting to be in a relationship that requires me to have exclusively hetero or same-sex sex I’m “proving” the slutty bisexual stereotype. I don’t think that’s happening on this thread, but I’m curious if others ever feel the same way.
Yeah it’s a shame — I feel like I might be hurting other bisexual people by reinforcing the stereotypes, being nonmonogamous, “slutty” and bisexual. It’s a difficult thing to navigate. I’d be curious to hear what others think.
I’m sorry you both feel caught in the trap that the stereotype sets up, because yes, the pushback against it can often come off as shaming and slut-shaming. One thing that might help, I think, would be for anyone addressing the issue directly to be careful to push back against both the idea that all bisexuals fit the stereotype, AND against the notion that there’s anything wrong with being non-monogamous or ‘slutty’. Because both the stereotyping and the shaming implied in it are hurtful, and turning around to shame fellow bis another way in response isn’t something I’m a fan of. (I’m fairly monogamous myself and not terribly attached to sex of any kind, but that’s just me. Being bi brings enough challenges – I don’t want to add to them for others.)
But as you say, it’s difficult to navigate, and I don’t know of any comprehensive solution. Kyriarchy = you can never win, yeah?
I totally get that. We are in an open relationship. We are rarely with other people, it’s been ages for either of us, but a part of me is like “Great, I’m just reinforcing the idea that we’re ‘greedy’ or whatever”. Then I feel bad for feeling bad because we’re not doing anything wrong, and the behavior of two bisexual people should not be held up as anyone’s example of how we all act, and blah blah blah, vicious circle…
Ashurredly, I totally feel your pain. Well, Val does more than I do, being more evenly bi, but I feel her pain, sort of, so…
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26.12.2022
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26.12.2022