sexuality or slut shaming
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Settling for Mr. “Good Enough”
Can You Really Settle for Love?
Is the Modern Hook-Up Really a Threat?
How the World Makes Love
Notes On Soul Mates and Sails
What I Miss (and Don’t Miss) About My Wedding Ring
The Rise of Polyamory in Modern Society
My Mexican Summer Fling
Using Magic to Find Love
Can You Be Friends With Your Ex Right Away?
Love Addict: Do You Just Know?
The Two-Sided Tale of a One-Night Stand
In my mind, this was not a story about sexuality or slut shaming. Many of the contributors seemed to shoehorn that angle in to the story in order to make it relevant to their respective blogs. I was aghast at reading on blogger’s query as to why society wasn’t acknowledging or embracing the young woman’s expression of her blossoming sexuality in the way they would her love of field hockey. This was not an act of one’s curiosity about sex. In fact, I don’t believe sex had anything to do with it. The take away for me was that, despite the inordinate number of ways people can connect through technology, these young children felt alienated and in need of attention. The young girl who sent the picture of herself naked to her boyfriend wanted him to like her, not fuck her. The girl who initiated the mass spread of this text was acting out her own inner turmoil and aggression. The other real issue that this story raised, besides the alienation and anger these kids are experiencing, was how brutal females can be to each other, and the origins of such a Lord of The Flies mentality. This was not a case of “slut shaming.” These are children. They have no idea what the words they say even mean. When I was their age I thought the word “fa—t” was harmless. It sounded funny. I was not gaybashing or expressing homophobia. I was expressing my immaturity. When I matured and learned what the word meant, and how it was used to hurt people, I stopped saying it.
While I thought this contribution to the “insomnia club” was the most articulate and thought out, I feel the rest tragically missed the mark because they were blinded by their own need for attention. While I loved your piece as a stand alone, in sum this particular installment of this “club” came off as an egregious bid for self-promotion.
A network of bloggers who have established a self-anointed hierarchy amongst themselves commenting on the dangers of “groupthink mentality?” (Two words: Unfollow Friday) People who attack and attempt to emasculate men for their own amusement are outraged when women’s sexuality and sexual choices are judged and questioned? The shaming, ridiculing and criticizing of men on a blog? Violating their privacy by printing their private communications to their blog for all to see and mock? The constant one sided tolerance towards those who do not think like them? Their own behavior mirrors this story in so many ways.
Can You Really Settle for Love?
Is the Modern Hook-Up Really a Threat?
How the World Makes Love
Notes On Soul Mates and Sails
What I Miss (and Don’t Miss) About My Wedding Ring
The Rise of Polyamory in Modern Society
My Mexican Summer Fling
Using Magic to Find Love
Can You Be Friends With Your Ex Right Away?
Love Addict: Do You Just Know?
The Two-Sided Tale of a One-Night Stand
In my mind, this was not a story about sexuality or slut shaming. Many of the contributors seemed to shoehorn that angle in to the story in order to make it relevant to their respective blogs. I was aghast at reading on blogger’s query as to why society wasn’t acknowledging or embracing the young woman’s expression of her blossoming sexuality in the way they would her love of field hockey. This was not an act of one’s curiosity about sex. In fact, I don’t believe sex had anything to do with it. The take away for me was that, despite the inordinate number of ways people can connect through technology, these young children felt alienated and in need of attention. The young girl who sent the picture of herself naked to her boyfriend wanted him to like her, not fuck her. The girl who initiated the mass spread of this text was acting out her own inner turmoil and aggression. The other real issue that this story raised, besides the alienation and anger these kids are experiencing, was how brutal females can be to each other, and the origins of such a Lord of The Flies mentality. This was not a case of “slut shaming.” These are children. They have no idea what the words they say even mean. When I was their age I thought the word “fa—t” was harmless. It sounded funny. I was not gaybashing or expressing homophobia. I was expressing my immaturity. When I matured and learned what the word meant, and how it was used to hurt people, I stopped saying it.
While I thought this contribution to the “insomnia club” was the most articulate and thought out, I feel the rest tragically missed the mark because they were blinded by their own need for attention. While I loved your piece as a stand alone, in sum this particular installment of this “club” came off as an egregious bid for self-promotion.
A network of bloggers who have established a self-anointed hierarchy amongst themselves commenting on the dangers of “groupthink mentality?” (Two words: Unfollow Friday) People who attack and attempt to emasculate men for their own amusement are outraged when women’s sexuality and sexual choices are judged and questioned? The shaming, ridiculing and criticizing of men on a blog? Violating their privacy by printing their private communications to their blog for all to see and mock? The constant one sided tolerance towards those who do not think like them? Their own behavior mirrors this story in so many ways.
Début de l'événement
14.01.2022
Fin de l'événement
14.01.2022